How do you know if someone is the right one for you?
There are so many answers out there, and an extreme amount of opinions.
It comes down to a few things for me.
- Do you want to be with them?
- Do they have similar values?
- Do you like who you are with them?
The majority of the time, young adults in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints have a tendency to either over complicate the decision or make the decision rashly. It’s important that we find that middle ground.
I think when it comes to rash decision making- it comes from you thinking you need someone to be whole, or you should be married by now, or you might as well do it quickly. Ultimately, there really is no rush. When you allow yourself to slow down, you can think more clearly about the decision.
The over complicating of the decision tends to come from a fear of mistakes, failure, rejection, and a myriad of other things. How you can combat this is trusting yourself to make good decisions, not just now, but in the future.
For example: “I want to marry this person, they seem wonderful, I know them well, and I want to spend the rest of my life with them. And- if they mistreated me, became abusive, or weren’t the person I thought they were, I will trust myself to handle that when that comes.”
Listen to more on this topic on my podcast: Mindful of You.